Category: Cup of T
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Showing up in a broken world
Hello! I’m back again after quite a long writing hiatus and while life had certainly happened over the past year that I couldn’t even keep my blog alive, I’ve also been quietly going deeper into the things that I’ve been openly talking about here: my shame, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and lately, how my inner world plays…
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Dying to ego and self
I’ve been dealing with a discomfort I couldn’t seem to shake off. I haven’t been feeling like myself—like I’m just going through the motions and living on auto-pilot—working through my day job, meeting my friends, going to church, repeat. When this happens, I usually know in my head that I have an internal conflict waiting…
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What we don’t talk about in 2024 highlight reels
Happy New Year’s Eve! 2024 is officially over and I couldn’t pass up sharing some of my thoughts about this year coming to a close. My social media feeds are now full of year-end celebrations, highlight reels, and big wins—things we all want the world to see and celebrate with us. While this is always…
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Shunning the voice of shame
My theme lately has been about acknowledging and dismantling shame. For a while, I was caught up in situations and interpersonal conflicts that elicited strong uncomfortable emotions, and that made me react in ways that were detrimental to myself and my relationships. Despite feeling so heavy and crushed, I tried to remain curious about my…
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Learning to cut through the noise
In a world where knowledge and information are at the tips of our fingers, how do we know what’s real? At a simple scroll, we are fed with opinions, ideas, and anything we could possibly think of. We don’t even try to find information anymore, it all just comes to us. All the algorithms set…
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Embracing slow and steady
Lately I’ve been struggling with a discomfort that usually shows up when I’m on social media and I see others “live their best lives”. It’s like there’s this subtle but powerful weight of comparison that settles deep in my heart by simply looking at other people’s lifestyles and achievements. Why does a simple post about…
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5 lessons from a healing people pleaser
This has got to be my most controversial title yet. To be honest, I had to muster up the courage to reveal such an undesirable part of me, but from all the conversations I had with my peers who also struggle with people-pleasing, I know this is worth bringing to light and exposing my vulnerability…
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Returning to our bodies
The past few months have so been chaotic. I felt like getting pulled from every direction, dealing with so many different things all at once. For a while, it seemed like the world was moving 10x faster than usual and I had to exhaust every single atom in me to keep up. Like a hamster…
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Healing in romantic relationships
Relationships can reveal and teach us so much about our inner selves, but I only really understood this truth over the last few years. With a fully developed prefrontal cortex and the ability to make better choices, breakthroughs on love and relationships were certainly bound to happen. Ironically, my most powerful ones only came about…
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Confessions of a perfectionist
My battle with perfectionism has been a lot more grueling than usual, and it all started when I entered new seasons in my career and relationships at the start of this year. It was a time when a lot of my old patterns and toxic defense mechanisms began to resurface, but it was also when…
finding felicity 